Guest Post: Welcoming the Years

May 30, 2013

Us bloggers love doing the occasional guest post. It helps us step out of our “blog box” and explore different ideas and thoughts and themes.

So, when Christine opened the door for a guest post, I took the leap.  And in staying with her theme, I am going to write on aging.

Alas, probably from a different perspective.

See, in my teens I was awkward and uncomfortable. I was tall and lanky and my ass didn’t even fill out a pair of jeans. I wore elastic waistband pants (because they stayed up) and I was part of the JR Alderman’s club.  I was student council, debate club and voted most likely to go into politics. I swam, and had no clue about how to even find my femininity, let along use it.

And then in my 20’s I was a twit. I was always right, and figured I knew everything.  When someone gave me a task (big or small) I put my entire being into it and completed that task beyond all capabilities. My values and strengths were blown out of proportion. The world was black and white with no room for grey areas.

My 30’s welcomed my children and were a terrifying place full of new experiences and fears. Every day was filled with learning something new. I adapted to death, and loss, and passionate love. I found my parenting feet and watched my body change through 3(and a half) pregnancies.  I suffered and felt success. I withdrew and was reborn. I completely lost myself, and then found myself again.

And so now, on the cusp of 40, I am welcoming what is to come. I feel that I have the experience and understanding to better deal with the years ahead. I understand that each moment is short lived, and that I WILL survive.  I have accepted the changes in my body and feel relief that I am not fighting to maintain something for someone else’s reasons. The people around me love me, and I love them, and most importantly, we understand each other.

So, I will not fight the advancing years, but welcome them with an open heart and open mind. I will find the new (and improved) me for my 40’s and be proud to be standing with such an amazing tribe of women.

And, I will make sure Christine is on that tribe, embracing her 40’s as well, and knowing that she has the strength and skills to greet whatever is to come.

And I will raise a glass (often before noon… cause that is ok in your 40’s) and toast my past, and walk confidently into my future.


julienowell headshotGuest post by Julie Nowell – Three Chickens and a Boat
A worker of magic, and a creator of awesome moments, Julie spends her time balancing multiple businesses that all work towards the purpose of creating community and providing unique engagment. An engaging speaker and trainer, a passionate (and positive) blogger and a digital publisher, Julie gets to work with brands and individuals who are looking to polish their ideas and create memorable experiences for their clients and customers. A “good influence” human, whose main goals are working hard and being happy. Simple really (but super rewarding). Julie blogs about happiness at and consults via

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  • Reply Michele Partridge May 30, 2013 at 2:19 pm

    Here, here Julie! Love this post. I raise a glass to you and the sisters in your tribe. 🙂

  • Reply Melissa May 30, 2013 at 5:15 pm

    You go, Julie!! Funny how we’re all like wine…better with age! I’ll drink to that!

  • Reply Tiffany May 31, 2013 at 12:16 am

    My hope is that you both are a part of my tribe for years to come! Nicely written Julie!

  • Reply Cheriak May 31, 2013 at 4:55 am

    I’m finding it very relieving to hear about peers turning 40, I’m there soon too! I haven’t had much time to reflect on it but I’ve definitely been going through some big inner work type stuff. I want to embrace it, I really do… and I’m trying!

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