To Third Or Not To Third?

November 19, 2013

DSC00275Five years ago, right after G was born, my OB said “guess i’ll be seeing you again soon for number 3!” to which I laughed for a good 5 minutes then said “No way!”. Mostly, it was because of my age – already in my late 30’s and a history of complications left me gun shy to go for a third. Besides, likely I would have had twin boys…..gah!

Anyways, I will admit to have struggled a bit over the years with not having a daughter. Don’t get me wrong, I love my boys more than anything and think I am more suited to be a mom to boys but I had fantasies of shopping trips, mani/pedis and bonding over One Direction with my own daughter. I can barely get my boys into a mall without one or both screaming “Nooooooooooooooo!” or having to bribe them with treats. Sigh.

I also struggled because I lost a baby between my two boys. At 21 weeks it was gut wrenching to lose my baby girl (Peyton would have been her name).

That small hole that is still left in my heart is luckily filled with three gorgeous nieces which I can spoil with girly things and get my pink fix when required. I feel good about where I am in my life and now that both boys are in school, I can’t imagine going back to diapers and later night feedings.

So when I get asked “Are you going to have a third?” I can still say with confidence “No way!”

 

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7 Comments

  • Reply megan @ food and whine November 19, 2013 at 12:47 pm

    I’m so sorry for the loss of your baby girl, how heartbreaking!
    We struggled with whether to try for a third after 2 boys and finally decided to go for it, fully expecting to have another boy, but to our surprise it was a girl. I always wanted a daughter so I feel truly blessed.
    Now people still ask if we plan to have another. I can confidently say that we’re done! Our family feels complete.

    • Reply Christine November 19, 2013 at 8:57 pm

      Thanks Megan! I would have liked to have had that certainty of feeling like our family was complete but am definitely content 🙂

  • Reply Alison Day November 19, 2013 at 1:24 pm

    As I’m sure you already know I desperately hoped LC was going to be a boy (and am pretty sure the one I lost at 12 weeks was a boy) but I know I am a better mother for girls just as you said you’re better suited for boys. God knows what I’d have done if LC had been a boy! Whether you believe in a higher power or not, it’s true that we are most often dealt the hand we can handle!

    You are welcome to my pink frilly brood whenever you need a girly fix! 🙂

    • Reply Christine November 19, 2013 at 8:55 pm

      I love my little nieces and yes, auntie will get her pink girly time for sure with them!

  • Reply Greg November 19, 2013 at 2:56 pm

    Yes, we “decided” to have a third. Certainly turned out to be an awesome “decision”, as I could not imagine not having daughter three, but Alison definitely decided that I would be seeing Dr Pawluk so that we could not “decide” to have number 4.

  • Reply Shark December 29, 2013 at 6:47 pm

    Okay, that headline was total clickbait! Nice one. But I’m glad of your sweet boys. Balances out the many nieces in my life! Xox

    • Reply Christine January 9, 2014 at 10:11 am

      This old womb is totally closed for business my friend! xo

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