To the mom in the Tim Horton’s last week,
I know you don’t know who I am and in fact we didn’t even talk. All we exchanged was a quick smile as I walked out the door with my coffee. Or, at least I hope my smile was more of a “hang in there, you got this, it doesn’t last forever” kind of smile.
You see, on this day last week the sun was shining, I had just dropped my kids at school and I was on my way to a glorious kid-free day of running errands and a doctors appointment. Nothing special at all, but I had 6 kid free hours ahead of me. Bliss!
You, dear mom at Tim Hortons, were sitting at a table with your baby and toddler. I imagined that maybe you were having a snack before heading to mommy and me drop in before rushing home for the first of several naps. Your baby wasn’t very happy and your toddler had just spilled her milk all over the table. You jumped up to grab some napkins and your baby started wailing because you left the table. I could see the exasperation (and likely the words f**ckity f*ck f*ck running through your brain) in your face as you rushed back to the table.
And I remember thinking as I passed her and smiled, “i’m so happy that’s not me”. And as much as it’s scary to think of how fast time is flying by, If i’m honest, I really don’t miss those early years when the kids were really young. I don’t miss the conversations about baby food and diapers nor the days that seemed to go on forever (and by saying this I am NOT supporting Donald Trump Jr’s ridiculously offensive tweet last week).
I don’t miss pushing two screaming little ones around the grocery store nor spending hours at the park pushing swings nor having to navigate my days around all the &%*$^ naps. Of course I do miss a lot of things about them being young, but when I see the lovely, smart, funny, independent little humans that they are becoming I just beam with pride and breathe a sigh of relief. I did it!
So hang in there mom in the Tim Horton’s, in no time at all you’ll be the one giving the “hang in there, you got this, it doesn’t last forever” kind of smile to another mom in the Tim Horton’s.